Good evening everyone. Today, I am going to share with you all the Mechanics of Happiness which I try to derive myself. Put the blame on the boring days which make me have such a mood to do such a job. Somehow, it is a sharing and after you all have read it, please feel free to leave some comments and critiques. So basically, the happiness that I mentioned here referred to the happiness derived from love bond between a couple or a lover. So here, we shall temporary exclude the happiness derived from love among family, friends and etc. I tried to relate those theories with some Chinese song so that we can have a fun sharing session. Hehehe…..
In the world of economy, we learn about suppliers and demanders. In fact, the same thing could be applied in the world of happiness. There are 3 characters in the world of happiness and everyone in the world has the right to choose either to become a “demander and supplier”, “supplier only” or “demander only”.....
The one who choose to become “demander and supplier” shall be regarded as a perfect person. It means that he/she tend to demand for happiness but at the same time he/she supply for happiness.....
Some were so innocent that they choose to become a “supplier only” and in this context, they never demand for happiness but in fact, only supply for happiness.....
Some were so selfish that they choose to become a “demander only” and in this context, they just keep on demand for happiness but never think of supply for happiness.....
Before I proceed, it is important to note that the worth of happiness is priceless. So, we shall ignore the pricing concept in the world of happiness. Resume…..
In actual, there is a huge number of suppliers and demanders of happiness. So, when you heard this, you might perceive that since there are many suppliers and demanders, then for sure it is easy for everyone to grab the happiness. But if this is your thinking, then I have to say that, sorry sir, you are wrong…..
To survive in the world of happiness, you should equip yourself with some sort of critical thinking. Let me elaborate further, although there are huge number of supplier and demander, but happiness is hardly to get because the matching between a supplier and demander in fact is an extremely difficult matter.....
For example, supplier A would like to supply happiness to demander B, but it is not necessary that demander B would accept the supply from supplier A. He/she might turn up demanded for happiness supply by supplier C. Let’s us say that supplier C really supplied the happiness as demanded by demander B, then this is what we called a success matching between a supplier and demander. However, if both supplier C and demander B would like to live happily in a longer term, then it is compulsory for them to convert both of their characteristic to “demander and supplier” and not “supplier only” or “demander only”. Why??? Because happiness can only last longer when there are both sacrifice and return. If they continue the characteristic as “supplier only” or “demander only”, in the end, the supplier might end up sing the song 快乐 by 张信哲－也许爱情是不断的付出，心甘情愿放下赌注，直到奉献了所有的心血才愿意认输. Nice song. Highly recommended, hahaha.....
But if both of them successfully convert their characteristic to “demander and supplier”, then a song suit to both of them is 今天妳要嫁給我 by 陶吉吉 and 蔡依琳- 聽我說，手牽手，我們一起走，把你一生交給我，昨天不要回頭，明天要到白首，今天妳要嫁給我. Hahaha…..
Then what about the poor supplier A??? Supplier A might still think of standby anytime to keep on supply happiness to demander B as long as he/she feel that’s worth. A song suit with the supplier A is 普通朋友 by陶吉吉 - 等待，我随时随地在等待，做你感情上的依赖，我没有任何的疑问，这是爱. However, if supplier A understand the mechanic of happiness, then he/she might realize that there is no forcing in the world of happiness. He/she might end up stop supplying the happiness and pray for the demander B and supplier C. A song suit supplier A is now 你们要快乐 by 李圣杰 – 你们要快乐，要天长地久，你们没有错，爱是自由，走出这扇门后，至少我还有辽阔，你们要快乐，要紧紧牵手，你们不幸福，我会难过. Hahaha, nice song…..
Another example is that supplier P and supplier Q would like to supply happiness to demander R, but demander R would neither accept supply from supplier P nor supplier Q. So, what supplier P and supplier Q can do is that they can choose to stay and standby anytime in supplying the happiness to demander R or they may choose to change the target of supply to, for example demander S. Let’s say that supplier P choose to give up and change the target of demander. Then a song suit him/her is 手放开 by李聖傑 - 我给你最后的疼爱是手放开，不要一张双人床中间隔着一片海，感情的汙点，就留给时间慢慢漂白，把爱收进胸前，左边口袋. Hahaha…..
On the other hand, let’s us say that supplier Q choose to stay and standby anytime in supplying the happiness to demander R. If god bless, there is a day where demander R change his/her mind to accept the supply from supplier Q, then it is a success matching between a supplier and demander. Again, however, if both supplier Q and demander R would like to live happily in a longer term, then it is compulsory for them to convert both of their characteristic to “demander and supplier” and not “supplier only” or “demander only”. Here, a song suit to them is 笨蛋 by 金莎 – 金莎: 难道我真的是个笨蛋，一直错过已在身边的幸福？？？ JJ Lin: 我们只是用时间找到了我们需要什么，时间让我们认识了自己，也肯定了对方 (These sentences were not in the song’s lyric. It’s the MTV dialogue. Follow the link in the end of this post, watch the MTV and you will noticed that). Try to imagine as demander R =金莎 and supplier Q = JJ Lin, then you will see a nice story. Hahaha…..
There are still a lot of examples in the real world of happiness, so try to think it out if you feel interested. Basically, what I would like to conclude here is that in the world of happiness, it is not like when you tend to supply happiness to someone, he/she will straight away accept your offer. This is because everyone presented in the world has the right to choose his/her own supplier or demander.....
Typically, in the song “I am Still Missing Her” or “我还想她” by 林俊杰. He mentioned that in reality, happiness is always undersupply which means that the supply of happiness is always not enough. In Chinese is 现实中，幸福永远缺货. This assumption is absurd. If you agree with me, in reality, the happiness is not undersupply but oversupply. It’s just the problem lies in the extremely difficult matching between supplier of happiness and demander of happiness which lead to the fact that not everyone will able to get the happiness that he/she is looking for.....
Already talk about happiness for so song. But what is the definition of happiness??? Definition provided from web - happiness is defined as a state of well-being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. For me, definition of happiness will vary according to different people and situation. Again, we are now referring to the definition in term of love between a couple, so we shall temporary excluded definitions from the view of family bond and friendship.....
1. Some will think that when his/her counterpart able to provide him/her with a 100% love, care, concern and put him/her in the first place of heart, then it is happiness…..
2. Some will think that when his/her counterpart is doing good in catching his/her heart by communicate sweet words to him/her, then it is happiness…..
3. Some will think that when his/her counterpart is very humor and can provide him/her with funny and silly joke which can make him/her feel happy, then it is happiness…..
4. Some will think that when his/her counterpart is rich enough and can provide him/her with some sort of material satisfaction, then it is happiness…..
There are still a lot of different definitions. So which definitions suit you most??? 1, 2 , 3 or 4??? Or all of the above??? Hahaha…..
Anyway, this is just a sharing regarding the mechanic of happiness. It is just a thinking appear in my mind all of a sudden for no other reasons. Perhaps many of you already understand this mechanic since early. To all my friends who are doing the last semester in MMU, we still have around 100 days before leaving MMU and from the starting of this semester, I have already promised myself that in this last period, I am going to live myself with full of enjoyment, happiness and laugh without tear, worry, tension and sorrow. Although this is hardly to be achieved but I will keep the promise that I make to myself, so I will try my best to achieve it. Have you promised yourself??? I sense that many were not yet to do so. Anyway, you are yourself, so just do whatever you think is correct. Aha…..
By the way, do not ever think that I am crazy for writing this. Perhaps, it is just for fun. I am just restructure it so that it look meaningful. If you think it is meaningful, then it is. If you think it is nonsense, then it is nonsense. Everything just depends on what you believe. Hahaha.....
See you!!!
References:
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v26lGaJE-Mk 快乐 by张信哲
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nzTcd-eoRDg&feature=related 今天妳要嫁給我 by 陶吉吉 and 蔡依琳
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7QVUKy1z3Is 普通朋友 by陶吉吉
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gXetORS7tzA&feature=related 你们要快乐 by 李聖傑
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zXr_XR3lfiM 手放開 by 李聖傑
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BeAyZztG5ZU 笨蛋 by 金莎
7. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bu3w8Mk9NB8 我還想她 by 林俊傑
